Value for Thursday of Week 18 in the season of Growth

Being Forthright and Straightforward

Speaking directly and without reservation, without being overly aggressive or intimidating, is an important social skill.

  • I am not intimidating, I am forthright! [attributed to Deborah Meaden]
  • The way you build trust with your people is by being forthright and clear with them from day one. You may think people are fooled when you tell them what they want to hear. They are not fooled. [attributed to Dick Costolo]
  • There’s a certain logic to systems, and that logic is fairly self-evident. It’s very straightforward, usually. It might take a little research, it might take a little bit of industry to prize it out, but it’s there to be seen. [attributed to Michael Nesmith]

Forthrightness is another value that runs head-on into humility. Still, there is a value in speaking directly and honestly. We can explore the parameters and potential resolutions of this and other conflicts through our narratives, true and fictional.

Real

True Narratives

Pauline Kael's "'lack of introspection, self-awareness, restraint or hesitation' . . . gave her 'supreme freedom to speak up, to speak her mind, to find her honest voice'" as a film critic.

Many journalists exemplify the value of being forthright:

Memoirs:

Technical and Analytical Readings

Photographs

Documentary and Educational Films

Imaginary

Fictional Narratives

“You seem to wonder; but if you will get me fairly at it, I’ll make a clean breast of it. This cursed business, accursed of God and man, what is it? Strip it of all its ornament, run it down to the root and nucleus of the whole, and what is it? Why, because my brother Quashy is ignorant and weak, and I am intelligent and strong,—because I know how, and can do it,—therefore, I may steal all he has, keep it, and give him only such and so much as suits my fancy. Whatever is too hard, too dirty, too disagreeable, for me, I may set Quashy to doing. Because I don’t like work, Quashy shall work. Because the sun burns me, Quashy shall stay in the sun. Quashy shall earn the money, and I will spend it. Quashy shall lie down in every puddle, that I may walk over dry-shod. Quashy shall do my will, and not his, all the days of his mortal life, and have such chance of getting to heaven, at last, as I find convenient. This I take to be about what slavery is. I defy anybody on earth to read our slave-code, as it stands in our law-books, and make anything else of it. Talk of the abuses of slavery! Humbug! The thing itself is the essence of all abuse! And the only reason why the land don’t sink under it, like Sodom and Gomorrah, is because it is used in a way infinitely better than it is. For pity’s sake, for shame’s sake, because we are men born of women, and not savage beasts, many of us do not, and dare not, — we would scorn to use the full power which our savage laws put into our hands. And he who goes the furthest, and does the worst, only uses within limits the power that the law gives him.” [Harriett Beecher Stowe, Uncle Tom’s Cabin or Life Among the Lowly (1852), Volume II, Chapter XIX, “Miss Ophelia’s Experiences and Opinions Continued”.]

So now the Emperor walked under his high canopy in the midst of the procession, through the streets of his capital; and all the people standing by, and those at the windows, cried out, “Oh! How beautiful are our Emperor's new clothes! What a magnificent train there is to the mantle; and how gracefully the scarf hangs!” in short, no one would allow that he could not see these much-admired clothes; because, in doing so, he would have declared himself either a simpleton or unfit for his office. Certainly, none of the Emperor's various suits, had ever made so great an impression, as these invisible ones.  “But the Emperor has nothing at all on!” said a little child. [Hans Christian Andersen, “The Emperor’s New Clothes” (1837).]

Winner of the 2013 Nobel Prize in literature, Alice Munro is a starkly honest master of the short story.

Novels and stories:

Poetry

I was not beloved of the villagers,
But all because I spoke my mind,
And met those who transgressed against me
With plain remonstrance, hiding nor nurturing
Nor secret griefs nor grudges.
That act of the Spartan boy is greatly praised,
Who hid the wolf under his cloak,
Letting it devour him, uncomplainingly.
It is braver, I think, to snatch the wolf forth
And fight him openly, even in the street,
Amid dust and howls of pain.
The tongue may be an unruly member—
But silence poisons the soul.
Berate me who will—I am content.

[Edgar Lee Masters, “Dorcas Gustine”]

Other poems:

Music: Composers, artists, and major works

Ludwig van Beethoven, String Quartet No. 11 in F minor, “Serioso, Op. 95 (1810) (approx. 21-22’) (list of recorded performances): though Beethoven’s briefest string quartet, it is also quite intense. We could say that Beethoven got right to the point. 

Sergei Prokofiev’s compositional style can aptly be described as quirky. Laced with wit and humor, his music evokes the difficulties and absurdities of social life in his native Russia, and in the Soviet Union of his time. Superficially, Prokofiev’s music seems to take a round-about approach but once the listener understands the humor, the message is clear.

Domenico Scarlatti’s 555 keyboard sonatas (list of recorded performances) are crisply constructed little works, approximately five to fifteen minutes in duration. In them, Scarlatti presents simple musical ideas, to be executed with dispatch. Though their brevity leaves little time for thematic development, Scarlatti left us with a collection of works in these sonatas that laid the groundwork for later developments in the form, and simultaneously was fine music on its own. Here are links to performances of all 555 sonatas by Scott Ross on harpsichord, and of selected sonatas performed by Kipnis, and on piano by Pogorelić, Schmitt-Leonardy and Gould. Many others are available.

Other works:

Known as “the middleweight champion of the tenor saxophone”, Hank Mobley occupied a middle ground between aggressiveness and gentility. On his albums, his saxophone is front-and-center, expressing the music with straightforward clarity, but never overpowering the ensemble. He recorded many albums, from 1955-1970. 

Alex Sipiagin is a jazz trumpeter with a deceptively simple musical style. He executes difficult runs so easily that the difficulty goes unnoticed. His tonal clarity is impeccable. One could aptly say that he just plays, albeit with great skill. Here he is with his sextet at Dizzy’s in Lincoln Center in 2018; and at Miami Dade College. Here is a link to his playlists.

Eric Alexander is an excellent jazz saxophonist who plays engaging straight-ahead jazz. Here is a link to his playlists.

Other albums:

Music: songs and other short pieces

Visual Arts

Film and Stage

This Is Our Story

A religion of values and Ethics, driven by love and compassion, informed by science and reason.

PART ONE: OUR STORY

First ingredient: Distinctions. What is the core and essence of being human? What is contentment, or kindliness, or Love? What is gentleness, or service, or enthusiasm, or courage? If you follow the links, you see at a glance what these concepts mean.

PART TWO: ANALYSIS

This site would be incomplete without an analytical framework. After you have digested a few of the examples, feel free to explore the ideas behind the model. I would be remiss if I did not give credit to my inspiration for this work: the Human Faith Project of Calvin Chatlos, M.D. His demonstration of a model for Human Faith began my exploration of this subject matter.

A RELIGION OF VALUES

A baby first begins to learn about the world by experiencing it. A room may be warm or cool. The baby learns that distinction. As a toddler, the child may strike her head with a rag doll, and see that it is soft; then strike her head with a wooden block, and see that it is hard. Love is a distinction: she loves me, or she doesn’t love me. This is true of every human value:

justice, humility, wisdom, courage . . . every single one of them.

This site is dedicated to exploring those distinctions. It is based on a model of values that you can read about on the “About” page. However, the best way to learn about what is in here is the same as the baby’s way of learning about the world: open the pages, and see what happens.

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Octavio Ocampo, Forever Always

Jacek Yerka, House over the Waterfall

Norman Rockwell, Carefree Days Ahead

WHAT YOU WILL SEE HERE

When you open tiostest.wpengine.com, you will see a human value identified at the top of the page. The value changes daily. These values are designed to follow the seasons of the year.

You will also see an overview of the value, or subject for the day, and then two columns of materials.

The left-side column presents true narratives, which include biographies, memoirs, histories, documentary films and the like; and also technical and analytical writings.

The right-side columns presents the work of the human imagination: fictional novels and stories, music, visual art, poetry and fictional film.

Each entry is presented to help identify the value. Open some of the links and experience our human story, again. It belongs to us all, and each of us is a part of it.

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