Flourishing consists of positive emotion, meaning, engagement, healthy relationships, and accomplishment – the success of a life well lived. The acronym is “PERMA”. This is the characterizing feature of Nettle’s third and ultimate level of happiness. Don’t focus on negative things; focus on the positive, and you will flourish. [attributed to Alek Wek] Human well-being is not a random phenomenon….
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Value for Friday of Week 20 in the season of Growth
Being Responsible
Responsibility is about shouldering basic responsibilities of life, for the benefit of others. Think of parents, spouses, and service workers.
- You cannot hope to build a better world without improving the individuals. To that end, each of us must work for his own improvement and, at the same time, share a general responsibility for all humanity, our particular duty being to aid those to whom we think we can be most useful. [Marie Curie]
- With freedom comes responsibility. [Eleanor Roosevelt]
- Let us accept our own responsibility for the future. [John F. Kennedy]
- It is not, what a lawyer tells me I may do; but what humanity, reason, and justice, tell me I ought to do. [Edmund Burke, “Speech on Conciliation with America” (March 22, 1775).
Taking responsibility – being responsible – is a giant step forward from merely forbearing or tolerating. Every person who sacrifices to care for a child, and every child who does his homework without being prodded exhibits responsibility. It is the action component of our basic duty to people. Like many other values, responsibility reaches out in several directions.
Through responsibility, we assist others, and build connections that lead to high ethical standards, and to spirituality. We also liberate ourselves from constraints imposed by others and by the world.
Being responsible fosters a sense of purpose. When we are being responsible, we are actively engaged, not passive. This is essential not only in our relations to others but also for personal mental health. Thus, responsibility is an early step toward spirituality.
Being responsible helps us take control of our own lives. This expands the range of choices within our lives. It also leads to personal growth, an important step on the road to dignity.
Responsibility implies consistency. In the workplace, workers must be consistently responsible, or they will not be seen as responsible at all. An assembly line worker cannot do her job only 70% of the time; that would result in defective products. Inconsistency in a small percentage of workers would result in there being practically no finished products on which the manufacturing company or customers could rely. Caretaking mothers of small children cannot care for the child only 70% of the time: babies need care every day, throughout the day.
By being responsible, we earn the trust of others, and we learn to trust ourselves. This is an important step toward Faith. Being responsible also earns respect of merit: not merely the respect accorded to every person (respect for worth) but also respect accorded on merit (respect for someone’s dignity). Responsibility also builds confidence and self-confidence. It is an essential quality in a leader.
Taking responsibility for our mistakes is also important. This can take the form of recognizing mistakes, and committing not to repeat them; it can also take the form of fixing or correcting mistakes, and repairing damage.
Real
True Narratives
Responsibility and irresponsibility on a large scale:
- Eric Schlosser, Command and Control: Nuclear Weapons, the Damascus Accident, and the Illusion of Safety (The Penguin Press, 2013): on accidents with nuclear weapons
- Kevin Young, Bunk: The Rise of Hoaxes, Humbug, Plagiarists, Phonies, Post-Facts, and Fake News (Greywolf Press, 2017) “We Can’t Handle the Truth”
- Carlos Lozada, What Were We Thinking: A Brief Intellectual History of the Trump Era (Simon & Schuster, 2020): “We have spent the past 50 years undermining the basic institutions of society — not just our sense of common purpose and identity, but also normative values like truth and duty and expertise. The politics of consumerism — and grievance — have overwhelmed.”
- Martin J. Sherwin, Gambling with Armageddon: Nuclear Roulette from Hiroshima to the Cuban Missile Crisis, 1945-1962 (Knopf, 2020): “Since the October 1962 near miss of a holocaust, most global leaders have prioritized arms control to reduce the likelihood of nuclear war. ‘Gambling With Armageddon’ is a useful reminder to their successors to continue the effort.”
- Sheera Frankel and Cecilia Kang, An Ugly Truth: Inside Facebook’s Battle for Domination (Harper, 2021): “ The social media behemoth does as little as possible to prevent disasters from happening, then feebly attempts to avoid blame and manage public appearances.”
- Geoff Manaugh and Nicola Twilley, Until Proven Safe: The History and Future of Quarantine (MCD/Farrar, Straus & Giroux, 2021): “. . . it’s a lot easier to tell someone else to just shut up and submit to quarantine than to do it yourself. Any exercise of such formidable power also opens up the possibility of abuse.”
Personal responsibility:
- Andrea Wulf, Magnificent Rebels: The First Romantics and the Invention of the Self (Knopf, 2022), “paints a vivid portrait of the 18th-century German Romantics: brilliant intellectuals and poets who could also be petty, thin-skinned and self-involved.”
- Leslie Jamison, Splinters: Another Kind of Love Story (Little, Brown and Company, 2024), “tells the story of her divorce and first years as a single mother.”
Technical and Analytical Readings
- Robert Solomon, ed., Thinking About Feeling: Contemporary Philosophers on Emotions (Oxford University Press, 2004).
- Robert Solomon, Not Passion's Slave: Emotions and Choice (Oxford University Press, 2003).
- Christopher Tilmouth, Passion’s Triumph Over Reason: A History of the Moral Imagination from Spenser to Rochester (Oxford University Press, 2007).
- Victoria Kahn, Neil Saccamano and Daniela Coli, eds., Politics and the Passions: 1500-1850 (Princeton University Press, 2006).
- Timothy Garton Ash, Free Speech: Ten Principles for a Connected World (Yale University Press, 2016): “His preferred answer to the more flagrant vices of liberty — hate speech, manipulative journalism, coarsened debate and a vast sewer of abuse on social media — is to encourage ‘shared norms and practices that enable us to make best use of this essential freedom.’”
From the dark side:
- Paul A. Offit, Bad Faith: When Religious Belief Undermines Modern Medicine (Basic Books, 2015): “ . . . one can only hope that the efforts of people like Rita Swan — and books like ‘Bad Faith’ — will eventually bring about legislation that eliminates religious exemption for medical neglect of a child.”
Photographs
Documentary and Educational Films
Imaginary
Fictional Narratives
Once upon a time there was a little red hen who lived on a farm. Early one morning she woke up and went outside. There she found some corn. “Who will help me plant the corn?” said the little red hen. “Not I,” said the bull. “Not I,” said the cat. “Not I,” said the rat. “Oh very well, I’ll do it myself,” said the little red hen – and so she did! [folktale: The story of the little red hen]
In A Christmas Carol, Dickens tells us that we are responsible for our own present, and future. This theme appears early in the novel, through Marley’s ghost:
Again the spectre raised a cry, and shook its chain and wrung its shadowy hands. "You are fettered," said Scrooge, trembling. "Tell me why?" "I wear the chain I forged in life," replied the Ghost. "I made it link by link, and yard by yard; I girded it on of my own free will, and of my own free will I wore it. Is its pattern strange to you?" Scrooge trembled more and more. "Or would you know," pursued the Ghost, "the weight and length of the strong coil you bear yourself? It was full as heavy and as long as this, seven Christmas Eves ago. You have laboured on it, since. It is a ponderous chain!" [Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol (1843), Stave I: Marley’s Ghost.]
In one of literature’s most chilling moments, the theme appears again through a vision of two emaciated children accompanying the ghost of the present:
"Forgive me if I am not justified in what I ask," said Scrooge, looking intently at the Spirit's robe, "but I see something strange, and not belonging to yourself, protruding from your skirts. Is it a foot or a claw?" "It might be a claw, for the flesh there is upon it," was the Spirit's sorrowful reply. "Look here." From the foldings of its robe, it brought two children; wretched, abject, frightful, hideous, miserable. They knelt down at its feet, and clung upon the outside of its garment. "Oh, Man! look here. Look, look, down here!" exclaimed the Ghost. They were a boy and girl. Yellow, meagre, ragged, scowling, wolfish; but prostrate, too, in their humility. Where graceful youth should have filled their features out, and touched them with its freshest tints, a stale and shrivelled hand, like that of age, had pinched, and twisted them, and pulled them into shreds. Where angels might have sat enthroned, devils lurked, and glared out menacing. No change, no degradation, no perversion of humanity, in any grade, through all the mysteries of wonderful creation, has monsters half so horrible and dread. Scrooge started back, appalled. Having them shown to him in this way, he tried to say they were fine children, but the words choked themselves, rather than be parties to a lie of such enormous magnitude. "Spirit! are they yours?" Scrooge could say no more. "They are Man's," said the Spirit, looking down upon them. "And they cling to me, appealing from their fathers. This boy is Ignorance. This girl is Want. Beware them both, and all of their degree, but most of all beware this boy, for on his brow I see that written which is Doom, unless the writing be erased. Deny it!" cried the Spirit, stretching out its hand towards the city. "Slander those who tell it ye! Admit it for your factious purposes, and make it worse. And bide the end!" "Have they no refuge or resource?" cried Scrooge. "Are there no prisons?" said the Spirit, turning on him for the last time with his own words. "Are there no workhouses?" The bell struck twelve. Scrooge looked about him for the Ghost, and saw it not. As the last stroke ceased to vibrate, he remembered the prediction of old Jacob Marley, and lifting up his eyes, beheld a solemn Phantom, draped and hooded, coming, like a mist along the ground, towards him. [Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol (1843), Stave III: The Second of the Three Spirits.]
Other novels:
- Cherise Wolas, The Resurrection of Joan Ashby: A Novel (Flatiron Books, 2017): “There are the demands and joys of creating art … and then there are the demands and joys of being a parent.”
- Jenny Offill, Dept. of Speculation: A Novel (Knopf, 2014), “. . . charts the course of a marriage through curious, often shimmering fragments of prose.”
- Kevin Wilson, Nothing to See Here: A Novel (Ecco, 2019): “. . . is an unassuming bombshell of a novel that appears to be about female friendship . . . but is actually about our responsibilities toward the people we care for and about.”
- Angie Thomas, The Hate U Give: A Novel (Balzer + Bray, 2017): “It provides an ideal story to help teenagers think through questions of justice, racism, activism and personal responsibility . . .”
- Caitlin Wahrer, The Damage: A Novel (Pamela Dorman/Viking, 2021): “Wahrer’s characters are going through hell but still manage to be human and worth getting to know.”
- Miranda Beverly-Whittemore, Fierce Little Thing: A Novel (Flatiron Books, 2021): “A murder mystery, a character study, an exploration of guilt and responsibility, an account of a utopian community gone awry . . .”
From the dark side:
- Jon Raymond, Denial: A Novel (Simon & Schuster, 2022): “It’s 2052 and climate change has been disastrous, but the world has managed to hold at least some feet to the fire; at the Toronto Trials 20 years earlier, 33 of the most powerful carbon executives were convicted of “crimes against life.” Robert Cave, one of eight who went into hiding and were tried in absentia, has now been tracked down in Guadalajara by the journalist Jack Henry. The book tells the story of his apprehension.”
Poetry
From the dark side:
- Gwendolyn Brooks, “We Real Cool”
Music: Composers, artists, and major works
Johannes Brahms expresses a seriousness of purpose in his three piano quartets. The significant and assertive role taken on by each voice adds to the overriding mood.
- Piano Quartet No. 1 in G minor, Op. 25 (1861) (approx. 40-42’) (list of recorded performances), is considered to be “one of the earliest masterpieces of the Hamburg second period (the 'first maturity').”
- Piano Quartet No. 2 in A major, Op. 26 (1861) (approx. 46-49’) (list of recorded performances), is “not only Brahms’s longest piece of chamber music, but of all instrumental music.”
- Piano Quartet No. 3 in C minor, Op. 60, “Werther” (1875) (approx. 32-36’) (list of recorded performances), “was a tongue in cheek reference to Goethe’s 1774 epistolary novel, The Sorrows of Young Werther, in which the Romantic hero commits suicide after falling in love with a married woman whose husband he admires. . . While Robert Schumann spent his final years languishing in an asylum amid deteriorating mental health, Brahms assisted Clara in taking care of the Schumann household. Obvious parallels can be drawn between Brahms’ deep affection for Clara and the emotional tumult of the fictional Werther.”
“All of (Josef Bohuslav Foerster’s) string quartets are characterized by a sense of equilibrium of the sonic aspect, while the instrumental texture highlights the melodiousness of regularly built ideas with a solid tonal foundation.” [Vlasta Reitterová , in liner notes for this 2-CD set]
- String Quartet No. 1 in E Major, Op. 15 (1888), drawing on Smetana and Dvořák
- String Quartet No. 2 in D Major, Op. 39 (1893)
- String Quartet No. 3 in C Major, Op. 61 (1907, rev. 1913), dedicated to the composer’s wife Berta
- String Quartet No. 4 in F Major, Op. 182 (1944) (approx. 23’), inspired by a visit to Kladno, where he attended a performance of his opera Eva
- String Quartet No. 5 in G Major, "The Vestic" (1951), dedicated to the composer’s second wife Olga
Other compositions:
- Hayden Wayne, 5 Dances for Cello & Piano (2004) (approx. 39’), evokes responsibility in relationships.
- Raga Lalita Dhwani: performances are by Amjad Ali Khan, Amjad Ali Khan, and Bhargav Mistry.
In a jazz ensemble, the drummer is responsible for keeping the tempo, thereby holding the group together. Great jazz drummers include:
- Tony Williams, with his playlists;
- Kenny Clarke, with his playlists;
- Elvin Jones, with his playlists;
- Roy Haynes, with his playlists;
- Jo Jones, with his playlists;
- Chico Hamilton, with his playlists;
- Philly Joe Jones, with his playlists; and
- Shelly Manne, with his playlists.
From the dark side is Igor Stravinsky, The Rake’s Progress (1951) (approx. 145-150’) (libretto) (list of recorded performances) is about an irresponsible young man who abandons his true love and seeks the easy way, with tragic results for himself and all he cares about. Stravinsky’s inspiration for the opera was a set of eight paintings by William Hogarth, depicting a young man’s decadence and undoing. Performances with video feature Hadley, Ramey & Upshaw (Nagano) in 1992; and Appleby, Hughes & Bullock (Gullberg) in 2017. Top audio-recorded performances are by Young, Reardon, Raskin & Sarfaty (Stravinsky) in 1964; and Bostridge, Terfel, York & van Otter (Gardiner) in 1998.
Music: songs and other short pieces
- Iris Dement, “Living in the Wasteland of the Free” (lyrics)
- Sérgio Assad, Clarice Assad & Third Coast Percussion, “The Ruler”
- Bruce Springsteen, “The River” (lyrics)
- Tracy Chapman, “Change” (lyrics)
Visual Arts
- Edvard Munch, Girl Kindling a Stove (1883)
Film and Stage
- Do the Right Thing, a film about the daily concerns in Brooklyn on the hottest day of the year
- Red Beard, about a young doctor who learns compassion and responsibility
- Bed and Board (Domicil Conjugal), about a young man struggling with his responsibilities
- Diner, about“a group of high-school buddies who, in 1959, are a year or two out of high school, and just beginning to find their ways”
- Love Streams: the common story of male tension between women and family responsibilities; desperation in a menagerie-of-choice
- Rushmore: a “15-year-old tycoon-wannabe as a schoolboy” grows up a bit
- Summertime: a woman turns down a chance at romance for the good of others, and herself
- The Yearling: a boy learns a hard lesson about responsibility when he is put to the task of killing a fawn that is eating his family’s food supply.
From the shadow side:
- Jaws: the ethical dimension of the story is in the decision not to tell the public that a shark is in the water
- Lost in America: a young couple learns the hard way
- The Lost Weekend: a story about debilitating alcoholism
- Local Hero: a satirical look at rapacious company executives who don’t take it very seriously
- Nobody’s Fool, about a sixty-year-old man struggling with a basic sense of responsibility
- Saturday Night and Sunday Morning, about a young man who attends to his work during the workweek but wastes it all on weekends
